Well I really dropped the ball on this one, didn't I?
The story is that waaa-aaa-aaay back in August I told you that if you had questions for me, just put them in the comments and I'll answer.
And then I went back to school, and the kids went back to school, and life got kind of crazy, and I didn't get back to you.
That was kind of uncool of me.
But I'm getting back to you now, okay?
This time I'm going to answer the questions you asked about my marriage:
Theta Mom wanted to know: What has surprised you about marriage and what is something you didn't expect?
What surprised me most about marriage was that I noticed a difference in our relationship after we were married. I married my high school sweetheart. We got married in our early twenties, after we'd been together for 7 years and lived together for 3. It made sense to us to get married. We agreed that we would. There wasn't a lot of romance, or even a proposal, at first. My grandmother gave us her engagement ring. It had to be resized so we dropped it off at the jewelry place. A few weeks later Hubs said he wanted to go for a drive. He drove to the river and parked overlooking the yacht club and the cliff. I didn't think anything was up because we often stopped there to admire the boats and the water and the view.
We sat for a few minutes just taking it all in. Hubs reached into his pocket and pulled out a small red velvet box. He turned to me, opened it to display the ring and asked, "Will you marry me?" I hadn't even known the ring was ready. He picked it up secretly from the jewelry store so that he'd be able to surprise me with a proposal. I was delighted. It was a lovely moment.
We'd been together so long by the time we got married that I didn't expect anything to change. I was surprised by how much of a difference it made to me. Everything felt... more official, somehow... or something. It was good. I liked it. I don't believe that marriage is necessary to have a long-term committed relationship but, for me, it made a difference. That was a surprise.
Elaine from The Miselainous Life, who just had a beautiful baby girl (congratulations again, Elaine!) asked: how did you meet your husband?
I met my husband in high school. He was in my best friend's English class and she was always telling me funny stories about him and the things he'd said and done to make her laugh. One day, when my friends and I were standing in the hall, near the theatre, chatting and sharing a bag of chips, Hub and his friends were lured over by the call of our snackfoods. They scammed some of our chips and stayed to joke around for a while. Eventually, Hub's teasing went a bit too far and one of my friends grabbed his shirt in a playful 'I'll beat you into a pulp now for saying that to me' kind of way (if you know what I mean - it was high school, you've been there) and accidentally ripped off his top two buttons. He was embarrassed because his shirt was hanging open to expose his chest hair and he didn't want to sit in class like that. I said, "It could be worse... it could have been all your buttons." The bell rang and we all went to class.
The next day, I was sitting with my group of friends on the carpet blocks just outside of the cafeteria, eating lunch. Hubs and his friends joined us and we had a long conversation about super powers. I told the boys I had x-ray vision. We discussed the ins and outs of my special power (which did NOT allow me to see people naked under their clothes, but did allow me to see what they had in their pockets). After that day, he started showing up at my locker between classes to walk me to class. We talked on the phone every evening. We combined our two groups of friends to hang out that weekend. Two weeks after we met, he asked me to the Valentine's Day dance. We shared our first kiss that night and we've been together ever since.
And now, dear readers, tell me about yourselves... Tell me how you met your partner, husband, best friend, pet... anyone who's important to you.
And if you'd like to add a question, just put it in the comments.
Coming soon: Ask the Reluctant Housewife - Travel Edition.